Do you feel like you’re not being heard by your partner? Or not appreciated?
Is there an issue surrounding a lack of faithfulness, money, being a parent, the in-laws, or work?
Or maybe you’d both just love to connect on a deeper level?
While we now know that the old myth that “half of all marriages end in divorce” is simply false (the US divorce rate has been falling for decades and current studies estimate it’s closer to only ⅓), it doesn’t mean marriage is getting any easier with time. After all, if we expand this figure to include unhappy de facto relationships and add in the ill-contented twosomes who will never divorce, we can see there are large numbers of seriously annoyed, frustrated, glum people like you who are desperate for a change.
But what if you could avoid becoming a statistic?
What if you could have the relationship you’ve always craved?
If any of these sound like your relationship…
– You and your spouse don’t communicate honestly or with respect
– You, or your partner, have had a betrayal of trust
– You live like roommates rather than lovers
– You feel isolated and alone
– You are together only because of your children
– You’d love a wonderful life together
– You both genuinely want to improve your relationship
…Then couples counseling could be for you.
Whether aimed at addressing small issues or dealing with potentially relationship-breaking challenges, therapy can help you each feel valued, heard, and connected.
In the non-judgmental, supportive environment we provide, you and your partner’s individual wants and needs are combined with our evidence-based techniques and therapies to build confidence, openness. and respect. We’ll work together to improve your relationship with each other for the long-haul.
By encouraging honest, empathetic communication and using strategies and techniques that aid hearing, healing, and clarity, couples counseling becomes an empowering process for both you and your partner.
When both partners are provided with the right tools, appropriate approaches, and healthy insights, relationship frustrations often ease or disappear. Problems become manageable, validation & openness increases, and mature communication paves the way for a calmer, happier relationship and the healthiest way forward together. If you would like me to show you how counseling could create lasting, positive change for you and your partner, please contact me today for an appointment.
Emotionally Focus Therapy (EFT)
Our foundation for couples therapy in under the structure of EFT. It is a structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the 1980’s and has developed alongside the science on adult attachment and bonding to expand our understanding about what is happening in couple relationships and to guide therapists. In the last fifteen years, Dr. Johnson and her colleagues have further developed and refined the model and completed numerous studies. EFT is also used with families and individuals. A substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. For more information on EFT research, please see the EFT Research Menu. The major contraindication for EFT is on-going abuse in the relationship. EFT is being used with many different kinds of couples in private practice, university training centers and hospital clinics and many different cultural groups throughout the world. These distressed couples include partners suffering from disorders such as depression, post-traumatic stress disorders and chronic illness.